After the study group, I left the library and he came up behind me and asked if we could study together sometime. I said yes and we were inseparable after that.
Dating: For our first official date, Frank asked me to go play racquetball with him. I ended up getting a very upsetting phone call right before we were supposed to go out so I canceled our date with no explanation. I figured I would never see him again. Instead, he showed up at my apartment and said that I had sounded upset and he wondered if I would just like to go for a walk. We walked and I told him my problems and it was amazing.
We never did go play racquetball.
And of course, we all know about his wonderful ability to make pie. He will make me a pie pretty much anytime I ask.
Married life: We will have been married for 29 years this coming May. I was 21 when we got married and he was 24. Like everyone, we've had ups and downs but I can say that he is a very thoughtful and kind husband. He is quick to apologize. He doesn't hold a grudge or remember my mistakes.
Quirks: Frank has blanket issues. I cannot for the life of me find a nice blanket for our bed that we both like. They are always too hot or too cold or too heavy or too light. My aunt made us a quilt for a wedding present and he always ends up using that quilt even though, after 29 years, it is out of style and pretty beat up looking. If I put a light blanket on the bed, he puts an extra one on top. If I put a heavy blanket on the bed, he tosses it off and uses something lighter. I have bought so many quilts, blankets and covers for our bed over the years in an attempt to have a nice looking bedroom that also works for him. I have not yet succeeded.
Frank is a project guy and always has been. He keeps busy. This is not a guy who sits and watches tv on a weekend. When the kids were young I found weekends to be really hard because he always wanted to accomplish a ton of stuff and I just wanted a break from the kids! And, let's be honest, it's hard to accomplish a lot when you have little kids. At the end of the weekend, he would be in a bad mood because he didn't get as much done as he wanted. Luckily, he mellowed a bit and the kids grew up.
Romantic side: I don't think of Frank as a "romantic" type of person...he's just too practical for that. But he has just enough romance in him to pull out some really great gestures over the years. He built a huge "40" with lights that he put in our yard on my 40th birthday, he has taken me on a lot of vacations, he has thrown me birthday parties, he's written some nice notes and cards and he comes through with See's chocolates, which he knows I love, even when he had to have them shipped across the country to do it. He's good about paying attention and then surprising me at Christmas or my birthday with something I noticed or liked months before. I love that about him.
I'm glad Frank is my valentine now and for the last 29 years!